Problems in Toddler Behavior and How to Overcome Them

10 Common Problems in Toddler Behavior and How to Overcome Them

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As you know at the age of a toddler, your little one often shows various behavioral problems. While this is a normal part of growing up, ignoring it can make such behavior a habit into adulthood.

Toddler age is often difficult for toddlers and their parents. Because at this age, children understand and feel more than express it in words. Finally, the child feels emotionally overwhelmed, which results in crying, screaming, tantrums, and so on.

However, the good news is that these behavioral problems are temporary and will lessen and eventually go away with age. As a parent, you can manage behavior problems in toddlers.

Here will discuss 10 common problems in toddler behavior and how to overcome them. Apply some of these simple and easy-to-follow solutions, Mom!

Kicking and biting


Young children are a pool of energy, and they realize that they can scream and scream as loud as they want. Generally, whenever your child does this, you run from wherever you are and give him attention.

For a child, screaming does not imply angry behavior, because in fact, the child does not yet know that shouting is not a good thing.

The solution:

The situation can be made worse if you yell back at your little one because your child may think it’s okay to scream. Instead, Mom can teach him the difference between loud and soft sounds.

After hearing your child scream out loud, ask your child to listen to you. Show how to shout in a soft voice and ask the child to follow. So, when your child screams, ask him to use his soft voice. Make sure you use a soft voice when doing this.

Kicking and biting

By the age of two or three, toddlers may show signs of aggression by biting and kicking anything within their reach. But be aware that your child may be doing it to get your attention.

The key is not to respond every time he does, as this can turn into a habit. However, like other similar habits, this habit will also fade with time.

The solution:

If your child continues to engage in these aggressive actions, make sure he or she knows that these actions can have certain consequences. Instead of screaming and kicking or biting people around you, you can create a ‘naughty’ chair area at home, and make your child sit there until the child feels calm.

Anger or tantrums

Between the ages of one and three, toddlers are easily exposed to a variety of emotions. Your little one may not be able to express himself well, even though he can understand everything you say. This can frustrate the child and lead to anger and tantrums.

Loud crying, screaming, and throwing things are common forms of tantrums at such times.

The solution:

There is a fairly simple way to deal with toddler behavior like this, which is to stay calm. If Mom screams too much or throws in too much, then things can get worse.

Do not raise your voice or force your child to be quiet. Lower yourself to eye level, and hold his hand. Hugging him can help soothe your toddler when he’s comfortable. Reaffirm that Mom loves him and everything will be fine.

And if it doesn’t work, let the child vent and then explain things calmly.

Saying no

Your little one may have recently discovered the consequences of saying the word “No”. Because he often heard this word from Mom and tried hard to use it when responding to Mom.

The solution:

When dealing with toddler behavior problems, you should always remember that your child is younger. Reacting with a loud voice can spoil an already fragile situation. Instead, set an example for your child by remaining calm so he can do the same. This is a way for your child to get their Mom’s attention and channel his excess energy.

Cutting off the conversation

A child’s short-term memory is not yet developed, which means the child always wants to say something before forgetting it. This can appear to interfere with your conversations with friends or coworkers, even if it doesn’t make sense to your toddler.

At this age, children do not yet understand that they have to manage and respond to the way they talk to those around them. However, he will only understand this concept after the age of 4 years or so.

The solution:

In a situation like this, it’s best to reduce situations where your child can interrupt your mother’s speech, and distract her when she normally does.

Schedule time with friends where you can chat and toddlers can play, either with other children or with the available toys or games. Practice this behavior with a partner who can also watch your child while playing.


At a young age, children may not be able to distinguish between reality and imagination until they reach 3 or 4 years of age. The concept of lying is actually still unknown to him, so children also do not understand what the truth means.

However, your child has an active imagination at this age and he will create imaginary creatures and humans, refusing to do anything to the point of spilling milk.

The solution:

Accusing a child of certain actions will not really help. Instead, create situations or encourage dialogue so that it is easier for the child to admit than to deny it.

If you overload your child with a long list of do’s and don’ts, your child may be overwhelmed and forced to lie. So, create a trusting environment and tell him that you trust him and that your kids should trust you too.

Pulling or pulling hair

Similar to kicking and biting, pulling hair is also a way to express his feelings and create a controlled environment around him.

Toddlers really want to get a reaction from their parents or siblings when he grabs their hair because he definitely gets a certain reaction.

He may also be pulling other people’s hair just for fun because the child likes his reaction, or it could be an impulsive control disorder if he pulls his own hair.

The solution:

Show him that hair pulling won’t work, and won’t bring any reaction. Stop the behavior every time you see it and explain that it doesn’t work for anyone else either.

Talk to him about this behavior when he’s not. Tell him that this action will not elicit a reaction in the other person in any way.


Imagine when your child depends on you for all the important things in life which include eating, drinking, and even cleaning up after a bowel movement. If your child wants to get Mom’s attention, he starts crying or whining.

The child then feels that this way, Mom will give him everything he needs, and then it becomes his standard behavior.

The solution:

If you hear your child whining, look him in the eye and reassure him that you are listening and care. Respond quickly if your toddler asks in a soft voice to support that the behavior is an example of correct behavior.

Avoid yelling or getting angry when your child whines from hunger and tiredness because that’s when the whining can escalate and get worse.

Fear of crowds

As a toddler, your child may become unruly and unmanageable when he or she is surrounded by many people. This can happen at the mall, in a restaurant, or at a crowded party. Fear of crowds can cause children to cry, scream, and break things, which in turn attracts the attention of other visitors.

The solution:

If your toddler isn’t used to dealing with lots of strangers in unfamiliar places and just wants to cling to Mom or even force her to leave. Don’t ignore this.

Gently hug your toddler and hold his hand to let him know that you are with him and that he is safe. Take one step at a time, and gradually lead the child into the crowd.

Finally, applaud because the child has bravely faced the situation when he did so without crying or screaming.

Biting nails

Nail-biting can become a habit in children and children may start doing it unconsciously and sometimes without a trigger.

This is a common thing for children, so your little one may not even notice it. This happens when the child feels bored or stressed. Follow this solution to overcome this dirty habit in toddlers

The solution:

The more often you scold, nag, or encourage him to give up his nail-biting habit, the more you can see your child continuing to do it. Your child will outgrow this habit as soon as he knows someone else is watching him, but this can take time.

In the meantime, find ways to reduce your child’s stress and boredom. Such as helping children to find suitable physical activities to release energy. Don’t nag him, especially in public.

Instead, create a secret code between you and your child so you can remind him to stop without nagging.

Well above is an example of 10 common problems in the behavior of children under five. Behavioral problems among toddlers are more likely to be resolved through wisdom and common sense, rather than coercion and tantrums.

Support and understand the child, because this behavior can appear due to stress or he feels strange and strange things around him. The earlier this issue is handled sensibly, the better. Because it will not have an impact on the child when he enters school age and as an adult as well.

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